Is your love a prey to their Ego ????

Some early signs that he or she is an Egoistic

Egomaniac Narcissists!

Wow, this sounds a bit dramatic, do people like this really exist? If you ever wondered this then, Yes, they might be one among your best friends, co-workers, your boss or your partner. They are manipulative and can get you thinking that they are the best people in this world.They use their intense look to connect to you, gain your trust and lie on your face. Not everyone is an open book, but they are a little more complicated than that. Initially you will be curious and want to know them more and more. After some time you try your best to understand them and make things work with them, but you guys keep getting into the same arguments repeatedly. At times you might feel trying to make them understand your feelings, is like hitting your head against the wall and hoping for the wall to get affected. Many of you might have realized their true colors and have chosen to avoid them but some of you might still be confused about What the F is wrong with the person or might even be in the mis conception that they care about you.

1.They open their mouth comes out I, Me, Mine, I’m, I was, I want, I Like, I think

No matter what topic you are talking about, if even a microbial part of it is remotely related to them they will cut you off in the conversation and start telling what happened to them once upon a time. You tell about a problem at your office and instead of trying to understand and suggest a solution to it, they will reply you with a story about the time they had an issue at their office and will make the conversation all about them. Every time they open their mouth, it’s to tell about the big things they own, the great contacts they have, the big party they threw, etc., which most of the times is just an exaggeration. It's like telling they climbed a mountain when they just crossed a molehill. At times the things they tell don’t even add up and if you try to point it out to them, they will make you feel like you are the dumb one. They will choose to talk about doing great things rather than doing it quietly. For them, only their experience, values and feelings are important and better than others. Someone who thinks the world revolves around them will not care about your issue or experience unless it involves them.

2.They need to be better than anyone and everyone

They think so damn high of themselves that they need a lot of effort to maintain that image and if you are any better than them ,they will start making a list of your shortcomings and throw it on your face every now and then in the name of constructive criticism to make themselves feel better in comparison. You tell them you went on a trip, and they will tell you they have been on 10 such trips. You tell them you got a very expensive gift for your birthday, and they will tell you that they keep getting such gifts every other day. It doesn’t go with them to simply live their life. They must compare and have their life better than someone so that other’s achievements and struggles pale in relation to theirs. For Example, if they get a better Salary compared to the rest they have to go and brag about it to every individual they meet on their way to show they are better than the rest.

3.Sorry but not Sorry

If they hurt you or do something wrong because of their ego, they will die fighting you, proving their act right but will never ever say sorry cause they feel no matter what they do they are right. For them to say sorry is being inferior and giving you an upper hand. They will never ever talk if it must be that way until you initiate a talk and take up all the blame and give up the fight, but they will not apologize. They are so insecure about themselves that they keep testing your sincerity no matter how many times you prove it to them.

4.Their favorite words are “My Reputation

Many of you might be concerned about what people think of you, but an egomaniac will take it to its heights. They always try to keep a clean slate and will not think twice before hurting you to save their fake reputation. Unless the pictures or status they are tagged in makes them look good, they will never let it come to their Facebook profile. When you are associated with them as a friend or a partner, unlike a caring person who will accept you the way you are, they will be so damn concerned about your appearance and behavior and unless you are perfect, they will never introduce you to their friends and try to keep your relation a bit of a secret as they feel they will be judged by who their partner is.They really don’t give a sh#t about how much you love or care about them, the only thing they care about is how much value you add to their reputation. So, you can be a complete a**hole on the inside, and they won’t mind if you have a good reputation and are a great add-on to their reputation. For Example, they will ask you to dress better and say they just want you to look good, but in the reality, they want you to look presentable next to them

5.Their Ego decides where they spend time

If you want to plan a meeting with them they always must get back to you, “Let’s See” “I’ll Let you know.” They do this, so they can keep their options open and see if there is something better to do that day or someone they like more might be available. If there is nothing better to do, then they will meet you, to show their face, so you don’t crib or start losing interest in them. For Example, no matter how close you are to them, on their birthday, they are going to spend time with you only if you have something big planned for them, else they will just scram to meet someone who has a better plan for them. Ego will always choose to go where it feels more boosted.

6.All I’m going to do is put you down, but you got to respect me

“You respect me whether I have done anything worth respecting or not”, is what they believe in, They will try to tell you what you want, “Don’t do this, it isn’t right or do that, it’s right”, if you don’t do according to what they say they will feel disrespected. They will get so damn obsessed that they will go to the extent of hurting you to make you do what they want in the name of respect. You might spill your heart out to them about the downs of your life, but they will never tell you about anything that went wrong with them. They will tell you about every microbial achievement of theirs, but never about the bad times because, for them, they cannot seem to look miserable before others. They always want to be thought of the ones with a better life than others.

7.You are not the one for me, but I’m going to keep you hooked

When it comes to dating an egomaniac, this is the epic one, whether they like or not they will never completely let you go as your attention is like a booster for them and lifts their ego. You might feel they have feelings for you, but they are just not ready for a commitment, but here you are being an outright fool. You are just an energy bar to their Ego. They will hardly ever text or call you if you don’t. They always have their options and they know the moment they text they can get you back and that’s what makes them to not care much.

8.It must be where, where, how they want it

They have no clue when it comes to give and take in any relationship and think they should get more special favors than other people. They will meet you when they want to, where they want to, you will have no say in it. You want them in your life then you adjust, they will not pick a leaf from the ground and keep it aside for you. They are filled with excuses for their selfish behavior and won’t give back what they expect from others, for example, they will make their friends change the date of gathering so they can attend it, they will not adjust or make changes to their routine. They will not go out of their way to do anything for anyone. If they do something nice for you, it’s a huge deal.

9. A word they don’t know “EMPATHY”

If it’s not their problem, then it’s not a problem at all. Only they have big problems rest of the world is all dealing with petty cr#p. They are selfish. If they give you an advice its most of the time to show that they are wiser than you and you need their advice. If you are going out to a hotel with your friends, they will give you suggestions on which hotel to go and which to avoid well not because they care but just because they want to show off how much they know about stuff.

Egomaniacs are too much of themselves to give importance to another or be in a relationship. Though they show off to be independent, self-confident and mature they are needy from the inside. They will live in a small apartment and whether have enough finance or not will spend a lot of money on bikes and parties and branded clothes, so people think they are better than they are. They will spend most of their time before a mirror and might take more time to get ready than you do. These people never change unless life strikes them hard. So, you got to either let them out of your life or develop a high tolerance to their sh#t.