Fear of letting go of a relationship

Relationship is just a word, what makes a relationship is two people who want to be with each other, who respect, love and value each other, but sometimes you get too attached that you just can't let go. For instance, you may have had a great time with your partner for a few months or say few years, but then they change and turn into a cold person who hurts you in all ways possible and fills your life with just tears and you still hold on to them hoping that time will change them and one day they will realize their love for you again and things will go alright. You can give love as an excuse for holding on but the truth is that it’s just your fear of letting go, that keeps you holding on, because you get so attached and so used to being with them that you start thinking you cannot live without them and no matter what they do to push you away, you still stay. You fail to realize that the person is not going to change, but you are definitely going to end up screwing yourself and losing your self-respect.

In this world where time is valued more than money you ask a person over and over again for their time while you wait for them the whole day setting every work of yours aside, just to spend some time with them, but all they give you are reasons for not being able to make time for you, sometimes all you get is “I’m busy” and still you somehow convince yourself and keep begging and go through the same cycle of disappointment over and over again. You tend to forget the value of your own time. You in your false hope choose not to see the fact that you are not something that makes them happy and they don’t want to be with you as much as you want to be with them.

If you are important to someone, then even if they are on a date the moment you tell them you need them, I’m sure they will try all possible ways to end their date and be with you. Even if a person is working 12 hours a day if they want to be with you they will make time because even the busiest person eats and sleeps, they can definitely spare an hour for you. Time is not what a person needs to be with you, all it takes is the will and the want. So if a person has been ignoring you for a while, then dear, it’s time to let go, either they are bored of you or they feel doing everything else in the world is better than being with you.

Everything has to have its limit. If you give yourself to someone unlimitedly then of course you will be taken for granted just like how, when the internet is limited, its used so carefully and when it’s unlimited people do all the crap they can do over it for their entertainment. If things have to change they will, you don’t have to burden yourself with the pain of holding on for that. For you to live you need oxygen, food and water, not another person. You have lived without them before, you can live without them even now. Always remember that any person having even a little drop of love for you will never do anything to hurt you. If a person doesn’t have time for you, why should you even bother to bother to want to be with them? You should never forget that there are billions of people on earth and you can always find a person who knows your worth, but before that you need to first know your worth and let go of a person who doesn’t.

You are not born to serve as an anchor, to always be the one holding on. What you fail to notice here is that letting go is less painful than holding on. Why do you want to swallow the bitter poison everyday by holding on? Just suck it up in one go and let go. Nobody is worthy of anything unless you see their worth. You can see a trash bin worthier than gold, it’s all about how we treat people that gives them a right over us. If someone treats you like a trash it doesn’t mean you are trash, it means they are the dustbins that can see only trash.

Let go of something that you fear leaving and see how liberating it is. You will have no emotional shackles binding you, though a little tough it’s going to be initially, but trust me, you are going to ease out with time and once you have conquered your fear you are the master of yourself. Life is not about being with someone who makes you happy but being the one who makes you happy. Something that’s right for you will never hurt, if it does then it’s not the right choice.